Day 66: Money part 2. - Choice is the Solution

by Sarah Devika Sumnauth

So intending to make money management plans are great, but even still, I feel compelled to not spend anything at all because fear seems to be calling all the shots.  Which kind of sucks.

So in moments of despair (and not that I’m truly in despair, just feeling a bit down I guess & a little sick still) I usually turn to sources of inspiration.  These always come to me somehow in the form of quotes from the great thinkers of the past and present.  One thought I want to share today is this one from Carlos Castaneda (a Peruvian anthropologist and enlightened thinker).  He says,

“We either make ourselves happy or miserable.  The amount of work is the same.”

Which to me draws a fine point on our ability to choose our stance in the world.  His words incite in me the notion of choice itself.  Either I can choose to look at money the same way as I always have, with fear, anxiety and feelings of ineptitude, or I can choose to free myself of these constraints and focus on more empowering thoughts, like the ones I use when I think about my business: I can do anything I want, I have all the options under the sun to make myself a success, I have all of the support I need to get myself to where I want to be, I love myself for doing this for my future self, and so on and so forth…

By why, in these moments, is it sometimes so hard to stay in that feel good place?  I guess because from birth we are either trained in one of two ways.  To believe that money is always at our beck and call, or to fear the money of others.  (I’ll be honest that I am essentializing these points of view, and this is not meant to be a criticism of “rich"or "poor” people.)  But what these ways of thinking do for us is in effect, limit us.  A lot of people walk through life believing that things are the way they are and are never gonna change…and that is just sad.  I don’t want to be one of those people, because I’ve seen how disheartening, and eventually cripling that way of life can become.  No, I want to choose to make my life better, and as a good friend of mine, Beau,  reminded me recently, that in common, we are both go getters, and even when we have a problem, it's only ever really a jumping off point for the next steps. 

So here I go jumping into the solution.

I want to work towards a real sense of empowerment through my money.  As the great spiritual poet Rumi, once said, “Respond to every call that excites your spirit.”  And yes maybe I don’t feel exuberant yet, but there is a strong chance that I will.  I want to feel excited about my money, because I’m making it for me, and to share with those around me.  And this is where gratitude comes in. 

As my favourite daily blogger, Mastin Kipp, says, “When we cannot change a situation, we must begin to change the way we view it - which shows us how much power we have in life."  And it’s this sentiment that I want to echo today to you. 

I can’t change in this moment how much money is coming in, that will only change over time.  But I can change how I view that money coming in.  I can choose to see that it will only grow exponentially.  That makes me feel thankful to be here at work today, so I can watch it come in. 

I can’t change that I wasn’t taught good money management habits as a young child, that’s the truth.  But I can see myself as a self-empowered, free adult, who is willing to learn everything there is to know about good money habits.  That makes me feel thankful to have so much chutzpah and honesty to show who I am and who I want to be. 

I can’t change that I don’t turn a profit now, for Urban Minerals, that its just starting now.  But I can choose to see it as lovingly and stubbornly optimistic as possible.  I can choose to see it as the embryo that has to be nurtured.  

And I guess most importantly I also have to recognize that this will all look different in just a few years time.  That I have a good paying job now, in the interim that is supportive of my dream to start my own business, and more importantly happy for me to be so ambitious, because it reflects well in my attention to customers and my readiness to learn new things.  That makes me feel awesome, and makes me feel like I’ve hit the cosmic jackpot.

So I guess the lesson for today is this.  Choose to make yourself happy, to feel empowered, to be excited.  It takes the same amount of work as it would to make yourself feel like crap, but which way is gonna be way more fun and do wonders for your smile lines?  We can choose how much we limit ourselves but eventually we must all learn that we have the power to make the right choices for ourselves and that is an exact reflection of our deepest desires and happiness.  So don’t be a debbie downer, turn that frown upside down, just do it, or whatever other silly analogy you want that will get you to do yourself a favour and make the best choice for your future self.